How To Navigate Conflict

 Hey Guys. Its's me again and welcome back to my blog. Today, I will be talking about something that I don't usually talk about in my blog. It was actually inspired by my introduction to communication class this morning by a Clinical Psychologist Ms. Sherley Lugito. We learned
on how to navigate our personal relationships.

 

       In the first part of the session, we were asked if the conflict was always a problem. We learned that it was a problem if it is prolonged and unable to resolve it. On the other hand, it can usually be used to highlight certain issues that can bring about change.

We then also learned about the 5 fundamentals of human experience and behavior. These are usually things that cause conflict. One of the reasons for conflict could be the information process because people think differently and how they think is affected by their background as well as their experience. Some people might think differently from you and that's when a conflict happens if you assume they think the same way as you do but in reality, it is not true. Sometimes people have certain fears and insecurities which may make them feel a certain way about something and it causes more emotion to be released sometimes. How some values might be important to a person affects how the conflict is going to escalate so if the conflict is more valuable to a person they will more likely be "triggered" if you say something against it. 

I also learned that a relationship can be referred to as a bank account. When you give in or listen to another person its basically like making a deposit of positivity in the bank. On the other hand, when you argue with another person you are making a withdrawal. The ideal deposit is 20 positive deposits in a day for 1 negative withdrawal. However, rough times happen and for that its 5 positive deposits for 1 withdrawal.

Some tips on how you can enrich your relationship with another person:

1. Be Mindful. Don't ignore the emotional needs. If someone is ranting actually listen to the person and provide support. Don't compete with them on who had a shittier day. 

2. Express Appreciation. Its the small acts of care that you show that matters.

3. Talk about stress. Quality talk for like 20-30 mins a day is known as a stress reducer. 

4. Communicate understanding. If someone rants you can just show or say you understand.

5. Be Physically Affectionate. Show a gesture to comfort them. 

Non-Verbal Communication in a relationship:

1. Look at the situation objectively. 

2. State how you feel.

3. Connect with a need. 

4. Make a request 

Example: Hey, I have noticed you have been late three times this week already, it makes me feel anxious that we might not meet the deadlines on time. Do you need a few days off to sort something out? 

This is my wacky class, communications students batch 2024. PS: You can see my class with crazy zoom backgrounds and filters. I don't know if you notice me but I'm the one with a zzz filter on my head. I hope I can use my knowledge from this class in the future and I hope it is useful for you guys too.